Black Friday: 4 Reasons to Buy Sex Toys Instead

Though it's Thanksgiving, I'm sure you're already thinking about Black Friday. It's the time of year where we Americans get out there and shop until we drop. It's rather crazy across the country; where shoppers have been known to trample across stores. But sex toy shops--online and off--aren't known for being packed-to-the-brim with fellow shoppers. Not only that, but do you really need (want) a newer television? Or would you like to try a different orgasm this Christmas? At GetLusty, we'd say try the new orgasm. For this and more, check out GetLusty's Traci Saiz on several more reasons to go sex toy shopping this Black Friday. In Chicago? Get your free vibrator this Black Friday.

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Without ado, the reasons why you should buy sex toys instead (or at least in addition) this Black Friday.

#1 Variety! Let’s mix it up!

Introducing toys into the bedroom can be fun, sexy, and exciting! Toys can enhance your arousal and your performance. Using a vibrator in just the right spot will get any woman ready to go. The same goes for men, grab a vibrator and use it on him for some effortlessly hot foreplay. Go to your nearest sex shop and see just how fun it can be. Toys are a great way to mix it up and add some variety. Talk about foreplay; tease her, tease him, get things hot and steamy with a little extra help. Buy a toy or two and stay in all weekend. Explore something new, surprise your partner, and seize the moment. So grab a toy and get to it!

The seasons are changing so why not get ready for the long cold winter by heating things up at home. Sex toys are great to add a little something extra. Not feeling it or too tired? Grab your toy, instant turn on for you both. Engage or watch! Sex toys are great for those times when one partner “wants to” and the other partner just isn’t in the mood. It allows the partner who feels like sexual pleasure the option of having it while adding the aid of a sex toy to the mix.

#2 Curious? So are we!

You’ve wanted to try something new but are hesitant and not sure where to start. Well now is your chance. Grab that special someone and hit the nearest sex shop! There are tons of different toys to choose from; cock rings, dildos, nipple clamps, whips, you name it, and they’ve got it. Anything you can think of to just try out, why not? You never know just how much fun you could have. Toys are much more than just the bachelor/bachelorette novelty gift. Vibrators and dildos don’t have to be big and scary, many are small and discreet.

Cock rings are fun for both parties! Just have your man slip one on and you both can enjoy the extra pleasure. A strap-on can open a new door for both of you---new sensations as well as a new role to play. Not sure how? Check out our 10 steps to awesome pegging. Let’s not forget one of my favorites—vibrating panties! Sure, they’re not your “typical” toy, but they are definitely a lot of fun! Feeling frisky and know you are going to be out on the town? Slip into these sexy buzz operated beauties and hand the remote over to your partner. They get to control how much and when you get that little extra buzz going. Talk about foreplay! This is an instant turn on for both of you and brings out your exhibitionist side. You will both enjoy the secret kink while going about your day or night.

Ladies, feel free to ask for a vibrator in that toy shop (do you have a Hitachi yet!?). When you get a yearning for some hanky panky give it a try. Be sure to text your partner so they can also enjoy your secret pleasure. The thought of using your little friend will get them riled up and you will both be ready for some action when you get home. Better yet, ask if your partner has a certain curiosity they would like to explore. There are anal kits and lubes, for example, that will help ease you and your partner into trying something a little more adventurous than the simple missionary position. (But if you want to make missionary mind blowing, you can always do that, too!)

#3 You really benefit

Bringing toys into the bedroom (or wherever you choose to get it on) will also enhance your health and communication while you’re at it. Yes, sex and those lovely toys are great for your body. Sex toys promote good health through all those amazing orgasms you will have.

Orgasms release stress and tension, and those endorphins are sure to put you in the best of moods. Having orgasms are healthy and fun! Have fun, get kinky and adventurous. Go ahead! Let those endorphins do the rest.

#4 Talk more about what you want

When was the last time you talked about what you really wanted in bed? Buying sex toys together can be a wonderful experience. It's not just for 'dirty' couples and won't replace your partner.

Shopping for a toy together allows you to be more open and start a conversation about what turns you both on. What better way to have sex than to do it no-holds bar! Communicate what you your interests are. Pick up a toy you’ve wanted to try, or one that just seems appealing. Toys can be the gateway to fulfilling all of each other’s fantasies!

We hope whatever you do that you'll have a fabulous time this Thanksgiving. Remember, we have plenty of ideas on making this Thanksgiving less stressful and more loving. And even cute ideas on how to make Thanksgiving a little sexier!

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Traci Saiz is a Southern California native but a Chicago girl at heart. She has a B.A. in Marketing and mentors on the side. She is a sports fanatic, a fun-seeking traveler, and passionate in nature especially when it comes to sex. She believes sex is a key element in a relationship and it doesn’t have to be “movie” sex but it has to be fun! She is not afraid to bare her dirty secrets (actually she doesn’t seem to have any). This gal is definitely not shy and loves to discuss relationships and sex with anyone and everyone! Follow Traci on twitter @TraciAlaina or find her on Pinterest.

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A Brief History of the Vibrator

We kinda love history. From the history of burlesque to dildos, we're a fan of understand the past and how it effects us today. Ever wonder how you lil' buddy came into being? We have already covered the history of the dildo, blow job, and Burlesque. Now it's time to discover where the vibrator came from! Dr. Jenn, (also known as Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD) gives us a quick and witty history of how this wonderful toy, or necessity, became a reality.

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Imagine it is 1880 and you are a London housewife. You are unsatisfied with your life, easily irritable, depressed and experiencing insomnia, so you seek a doctor for assistance. If you can afford Dr. Robert Dalrymple and his protégée Dr. Mortimer Granville, you would be diagnosed with “hysteria.” This was considered a plague of their time, a “disabling condition” for at least half the women of London. The cause of this plague? An “overactive uterus.” Here’s the best part: The treatment for hysteria was…(wait for it)…having your clitoris manually stimulated by your doctor until orgasm. I’m serious. This was a medical treatment to address the nervous system and help put a woman’s uterus back in order.

Luckily for Dr. Granville, the eager Dr. Dalrymple happened to have a friend and benefactor who was also a Lord of London and eccentric inventor. His latest invention was a steam-powered generator attached to a feather duster to ease the strains of housework. However, they saw the potential to extend this technology to ease the strains of Granville’s handiwork. The result? Multiple “paroxysms” in a quarter of the time. The marketability of this as a home product for the relaxation and health of women led to the invention of the portable home “massager,” the precursor to our favorite vibrators today.

I’ve known about the origins of the modern vibrator for many years, but "Hysteria" helped fill some confusing gaps for me. For example, how was it possible that the doctors didn’t know they were sexually pleasuring their female patients? How did they not know they were inducing an orgasm? Also, wasn’t this type of touching considered very personal and embarrassing? At the time, it was believed that women only experienced sexual pleasure through penetration of a penis. The doctors believed they were triggering a paroxysm which was understood to be a necessary outburst and release of emotion. And as depicted in the movie "Hysteria," the doctors provided their vulva massage to each patient behind a red velvet curtain, draped at the woman’s waist, to maintain modesty.

The history of the vibrator is confusing and truly ridiculous by today’s understanding of sexuality. Despite dabbling in serious topics, Hysteria takes a romantic comedy approach that is entertaining and accessible, but certainly not earth shattering. I recommend it as a worthy rental to tickle your sexual funny bone. And what movie about vibrators wouldn’t have a happy ending?

Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is a sociologist, sexuality speaker, and sex therapist, with a passion for challenging people to sexually think outside the box. Dr. Jenn is a public speaker on topics including healthy relationships, love, gender, mindfulness, erotic play, and happiness. She counsels individuals and couples, in person and over Skype, to assist in creating and maintaining open communication and fulfilling intimacy. Dr. Jenn is a contributing writer for Pacific San Diego Magazine and is a sex and relationship expert on Fox 5 news and San Diego Living. Follow her on Twitter @DrJennsDen and Facebook.

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Feel at Home at Tulip Toy Gallery

This article is by GetLusty for Couples contributing writer Greg Dorn. Greg writes primarily about business and events around the Chicago area to keep couple's sex lives, fresh, fun and stimulating. With a girlfriend of over 2 years, Greg has visited a plethora of sex toy shops to keep his own sex life exhilarating and electrifying. After visiting Tulip Toy Gallery, he thinks you will too. There are two Tulip Galleries, but this one focused on Tulip in Andersonville.

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The minute you step inside Tulip Toy Gallery, you immediately know you're in the quirky and hip Andersonville neighborhood. Located at 1480 W Berwyn Ave directly off the Berwyn Red Line stop, it's a hop, skip and jump away from virtually anywhere in the city.

The shop is small, yet packs a big punch. The selection of erotic goodies and sexy outfits will keep you there much longer than you probably had expected.

Like the area itself, the shop's selling point is it's warm and welcoming environment. Known primarily as a must-visit destination for the surrounding lesbian community, the friendly staff will keep you engaged for hours. You come for the items, you stay for the conversation. The knowledgeable staff offers a non-judgmental environment, as conversation, chitchat and laughter fill this tiny gem. Shy shoppers be aware, the staff will joyfully talk your ear off (and offer you ways to nibble on them).

Oh yea, and they have anything you can possibly want for an erotic evening reserved only for your wildest fantasies (believe me, this place will help make them a reality). The sex toys for both men and women are plentiful.

This north side Chicago joint even lets you try items out of the box so you know exactly what you're getting yourself into (or into you). The toys aren't the only items lining the walls of this eye-catching gallery. You'll find a terrific selection of books and erotic movies for all interests. Come alone, come with a friend or a whole group. With the hands-on experience, you may never leave!

In Chicago? Sign up to our Beta! Not sure? Read our top 10 reasons why you should sign up.

This is a guest post by Greg Dorn. 

Greg is a self-employed day trader who loves writing. He aims to think about sex whenever possible, including a variety of ways to enhance his own love life. If you don't see Greg crunching numbers, you'll find him enjoying the beauty of his wonderful girlfriend around Chicago. Want to give recommendations of businesses, products or sexy events around Chicago you'd like covered? E-mail Greg with your ideas to editorial@getlusty.com.

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The Rabbit Pearl. Yes, It's Fabulous!

It is #SexToyTuesday in the GetLusty office! One thing we absolutely love to discuss is vibrators! Not only are a fabulous way to pleasure yourself, but couples can use them to turn each other on during foreplay!

One vibrator that seems to always come to mind is the Rabbit! I bet there is not one woman out there who doesn't know what the Rabbit is. If you have ever watched, "Sex and the City" you may remember the episode, "The Turtle and the Hare". It's from Season 1. What happens? Charlotte gets addicted to her first vibrator; the Rabbit. From Mom's Toy Boxxx, Charity is here to give you her real and honest opinion about this very famous sex toy!

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Rabbit Pearl (Yup, it's as good as you've heard!)

Mom's Notes:

- This one is loud ladies. Make sure no one is around or everyone is asleep
- It's as good as you've heard
- Uses 3-C batteries (have them handy so you don't need to steal from your kid's toy fire truck.)

First Impressions:

- Wow! This looks fun!
- Thought: "A wire... hmm, not sure if I like that"
- Silly details: the head of the toy is just that - a "head", there is a silly little face on the toy (I think because China is not allowed to export sex toys, and putting a face on it makes it less... "adult" - at least that's what I've been told.)

Personal Experience: 5/5

I can see why Charlotte (from "Sex and the City") would deem men "unnecessary" after experiencing the Rabbit! This was my first "simultaneous-sensation" toy (as in internal and external at the same time), and it changed my sex toy requirements forever!

Review:

I think it might be safe to say this is a well known toy, thanks to the character Charlotte on "Sex and the City."  I (like many) just had to try it.

The Rabbit is a smooth, soft vibrator with a jelly-like material called Elastomer (less porous than cyberskin but more porous than silicone). The power pack is a little heavier than 3-C batteries and feels comfortable in your hand (no shaking or vibrating in your palm). I did not find the 23" long wire distracting, or noticeable (I totally forgot it was there).

At top speed, this is a powerful toy. There are two sliding controls - one to control the vibrations of the rabbit, and one to control the spinning shaft. You can use both separately or together at varying speeds. It spins on an angle, making a circular motion inside the vagina, while at the same time the pearls ripple at the vaginal opening. The ability to use the vibrations or spinning separately (or together) make it perfect for anyone.

3 distinct features:

#1 The vibrating rabbit: The ears of the rabbit are soft and bendy (see photos). The vibrations carry right through to the tips of the bunny's ears. Depending on where/how you place them, the ears can straddle the clitoris. At top speed, with fresh batteries, and without the shaft spinning at the same time, the vibrations are quite intense (and loud).

#2 The spinning shaft: This is a well made toy. The shaft is strong, with a solid metal bar deep in the middle. The spinning motion is smooth and comfortable. You control the speed of the spin with the sliding control piece mentioned earlier.

#3 The rippling pearls: If you've had kids, you may not find these as noticeable like someone with a "pre-child" vagina would (sorry, but given the focus of this blog - I have to say it like it is). When combined with the spinning shaft and vibrations, the pearls provide stimulation that make the entire experience EXTREMELY pleasurable.

I highly recommend the Rabbit Pearl. It is well made, and will provide years of pleasure. Given it's well know reputation, I would even buy this as a gift for a girlfriend.

There are many, many duplicates out there, so do your research and pick one that is made well and has the features you think sound fun. In the US, Eden Fantasy's has this exact model.



Good:
- Batteries last a long time
- Personalized speed and power
- Rabbit ears are flexible and provide multiple placement options

Not So Good:
- Power decreases when using both vibrator and spinner.

Bottom Line:
Type: Vaginal
Volume = 5/5
Cost = $50-$75
Storage Size = Box
Power = 3-C batteries
Waterproof = No
Good for = Beginner+

Originally posted at Mom's Toy Boxxx.

Charity is the author of Mom's Toy Boxxx, a sex toy review site for moms. After having kids Charity found her sex toy needs changed. "Volume" control, toy storage, cost and ease of use all took on new meanings once kids were in the house. Even a toy's appearance can influence a mom's purchase: as she's written: "I'd rather my kids find my vibrator than a phallic-looking dildo"!

Being a mom can be exhausting, and by the time the kids are asleep, sometimes the last thing a mom wants to do is put time and energy into getting off. Foreplay often takes too long, or isn't long enough and does not guarantee an orgasm. There's nothing wrong with a quickie, but it just doesn't satisfy like a toy can. Charity's goal is to help moms navigate the vast toy market quickly and efficiently to find satisfying items...and remember that just because you're a mom, doesn't mean you're sexual needs aren't still a big part of the picture! Follow Charity on Twitter @MomsToyBoxxx.

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