Winning the War Against the Vagina

We've talked in recent months about the crazy things that have happened around women's reproductive rights. For GetLusty, these rights are absolutely pivotal. We're a company run by women, and geared especially towards women. So this article spoke to us. We wanted to share it. Without adieu, Tantra expert Devi Ward explains why there's a war on the vagina and what you can do about it.

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There is a war going on my friends. Make no mistake. And it’s a war on women. An organized assault against our sexuality, our personal expression. Yes my friends, yet again, our reproductive rights. The very white, male and mainstream Republican party have proclaimed self-appointed stewardship over our pussies, and it’s time to take them back.

“But I already own my pussy,” you may think. Well I am here to tell you that although it may be physically attached to your body, it is not yours to do with as you wish, with whom you wish. Why? Two reasons (detailed below).

Our culture condones oppression of the sexually expressive 

You live in a culture that condones oppression against sexually expressive women. “Slut shaming” is a term used to describe the verbal and social denigration of a woman who engages in sexual activity outside of prescribed social moral boundaries. Slut shaming is verbally and emotionally violent. And it only occurs towards women. Slut shaming is a direct expression of social disapproval of a woman’s sexual behavior, (i.e. what she is doing with her pussy, with whom and how much).

You know for certain that slut shaming is occurring when women are being vilified for their sexual expression, (most recent example being Kristin Stewart) and the men with whom they have engaged sexually are completely ignored, and their “transgressions” are overlooked. “Boys will be boys.”

As a result of our need for social acceptance, we typically avoid engaging in behavior that our culture has conditioned us to believe is “wrong,” and that could cause us to be ostracized or ridiculed in any way. This applies to our sexual expression more than anything. As a result of this subconscious fear we hold back from exploring, expressing, or even fully enjoying our sexuality, and tend to let men (society) inform us what sexual behavior is acceptable for “good girls” to engage in, and what is not.

The healing begins with communities of women, supporting each other in reclaiming connection to their sexual pleasure and celebrating unbridled sensual expression. United we stand, divided we fall. Pussies of the world unite.

So what can you do?

#1 Get educated  

Our sexual potential as women is fucking mind bowing. Literally. With over 8 (11 or more) kinds of orgasm that we can experience, very few of us have tapped our full orgasmic potential. Why is this important? Because sexual energy is life energy. It opens your heart, frees your mind and heals your body. That is power! And it is your power. Your birthright. Fucking claim it.

#2 Masturbate 

Yes. Do it. Do it a lot, in a variety of different ways. Explore your vagina. Don’t wait for the right man to come along and give you permission to experience sexual pleasure. It is yours for the taking, right now. The best way to own your pussy is to touch your pussy. A lot.

#3 Dance 

Believe it or not, we hold many of these subconscious restrictions to our sexual self-expression in our bodies, particularly the pelvis.

Opening your lower body with the pelvic movements and sacred erotic dance will make a deep impact on your life, because you have to feel your vulva and vagina to do these movements.

You will discover the power of your pussy in a whole new way. I like to say “free your ass and your mind will follow.” Our empowerment as women is directly related to the level of freedom and comfort we feel with our sexual expression. If we are emotionally imprisoned by fear, guilt, and sexual shame, we are partially crippled as human beings, and will die without having realized our full personal, emotional, or spiritual potential.

I invite women everywhere to step up and step out of the psychological prison of sexual repression and claim your birthright to sexual pleasure. The revolution begins in your vagina. Own it.

Let me know if you liked this post below, and share it! Spread the word and start a revolution.

Originally posted on Devi's wonderful blog here.

Devi is the Founder of Feminine Emergence and creator of Sacred Erotic Dance™; a Movement-Healing modality that uses The 5 Core Pelvic Movements™, Authentic Tantra™ & Sensual Dance, to produce physical, emotional and spiritual healing in our relationship to sexual and sensual self-expression. Her new book “Shake Your Soul Song! A Woman’s Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art of Self-Pleasure” will release in October 2012. Follow Devi on Twitter @deviwardtantra and on Facebook.