Many sex positions have one person more dominant than the other. It's seems that most love-making is happening to a person, when it should be a shared experience where the both of you can truly connect. Nothing adds more intimacy to your sexual experience than being able to look your partner in the eye. "Benched" brings the two of you eye to eye.
How to get into it
Firstly, you'll need a bench. Maybe you don't have a bench – improvise. Look around your home for anything that can work. You have to be able to straddle the object. Try the coffee table, a couple of ottomans or foot stools pushed together, or a workout bench. If your kitchen counter is big enough, try it out. Be safe though. If your bench is free-standing, you might push yourselves into a dangerous spot, or fall right off.
Okay, once you have your bench – have seat. Both of you straddle that thing and pull each other close. One of you place your feet on the floor. You're the stability. Your partner grabs onto you and puts his/her feet up on the bench, behind you. The movement will come naturally, but the most important thing here is the intimacy. Look into your partner's eyes, gently kiss each other, become one.
Benefits for the giver (feet on the ground)
- Intimacy! Can't emphasize that enough.
- You get to sit down! You're not doing all the work in this position, so you'll be able to really enjoy yourself, and your partner.
- Your hands have more to explore with your partner sitting up.
Benefits for the receiver